Wait…what’s this creepy thing attached to my shoulder? (Thoughts on Arms)

Spooning tends to make your arms feel just plain awkward…unless you perfect your style!

Practice makes perfect people. Fo realz. The more you can has spooning, the more you will find your perfect arm positions comes to you naturally!

Anywho, the basics of arms are as follows, at least in my book:

For the big spoon:

You can opt for two basic movements with the arm that is closest to the ground. You can either opt to rest your own head on your arms, either by sticking it straight out or curling it under your cranium, or you can support your little spoon’s head, which tends to be more convenient if there are pillows or other soft surfaces so that your head is not pulling your neck down at some bizarre and often painful angle. Do what’s comfy (well, duh. Cuddling is not supposed to be painful. Unless you accidentally fall off of a bed or something because it’s 3 am, and you’re just plain broken. That’s when good cuddling goes bad.)

Anywho, back to my focus! Of course, the outside arm of the big spoon is perfect for holding your li’l spoon close. Over the spot between the hip and the chest is generally a good idea, especially if your little spoon has some nice hips. Otherwise, generally over your little spoon’s side is perfect. You can keep your arm close, or you can just rest it on your little spoon’s conveniently located body – it’s totally up to you. When I’m a big spoon, my arm tends to start hurting sometimes, so definitely feel free to shift about; movement will let your little spoon know that you’re still awake and enjoying the intensive cuddle-age anyways.

Yes, cuddle-age. It’s a word, because well, I say so.

For the little spoon:

Arm positions tend to be simpler for you, you lucky little kitchen utensil! Simply move your arms so that you fit into the big spoon nicely, and your shoulders aren’t killing you. Generally, I end up with both my arms pretty much in front of me, which can allow for some nice playing/fidgeting with the big spoon’s hand/arm. You can also curl your arm under your head or rest your head on your arm in some way  if there are no pillows and your big spoon is utilizing their arm to support his/her own head. Essentially, do what feels comfy.

If your big spoon and your little spoon are really on the same page, you can do such lovely things as holding hands! (Although that is a topic for another day because I have very strong feelings about hand-holding and cuddling. Be prepared.  And afraid. Be VERY afraid.)

Cue the scary music.

Happy spooning!