Size and Space - the Basics of Spooning

Obviously, there are two basic roles in the process of spooning - the big spoon and the little spoon. There can also be different degrees of size in spoons, especially when you opt to have a large spooning quorum. However, for today my focus is one-on-one spooning.

Please note, when I say "big spoon" and "little spoon," I am not denoting that the larger partner is necessarily the big spoon and that the smaller partner is necessarily the smaller spoon. The "big spoon" is simply the person who forms the outside of the spoonit (a unit of two spooning people). The “little spoon” is the person around whom the big spoon wraps himself or herself. Essentially, they lie front to back, interlocking like two spoons lying together, with one surrounding the other.

The big spoon tends to be the more dominant spoon, not because they are the more dominant partner, but because their movements will affect the person they are surrounding.

The smaller spoon tends to need to react to their partner's movements, stretching or curling up accordingly to the "size" the big spoon has made him or herself.  However, the small spoon can also take command, curling up or stretching as he or she will, and drawing their partner closer around them to allow for maximum physical  contact. Movement when spooning is extremely important; it lets your current spooner or spoonee know that you're enjoying the snuggles as well as that you want to make it even better, if possible.

Also, there is a "space factor." Some people are particularly cuddly spoons. I myself am a rather cuddly spoon; I like minimal space and maximum body heat, because I tend to be always cold and am thus a body heat leech. If I want you closer, you will most likely find yourself being pulled and nudged around me. However, some people prefer the freedom to wiggle and stretch that more space between partners allows, as well as the fact that any small movement they make affects their partner in some way. It is easy to allow for such a preference by simply allowing a little more space between your bodies.

But if you snuggle me, I don’t want that, unless you want space, in which case, of course you can have it!

(Please note, whoever wants more space gets space immediately. If somebody decides they are uncomfortable or simply feeling too restricted, it’s important to comply with their needs ASAP. Spooning should be fun; it should never make anyone unhappy.)

NEWSFLASH: I have just been informed that I am a snuggle addict. I’m not sure if this is a problem or not…but I’m definitely thinking not.

Happy spooning!